It is by far not impossible and I know quite a few girls who don’t only have a Japanese boyfriend, but are also married to a Japanese man, but it is still the BIG exception!Some of us will go through a hard time here in Japan.For foreign women it’s a completely different story.Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman.I personally know a few couples where either the man or the woman is foreign and I noticed quite a lot of differences in the kind of relationship they have.Please note that the following is based on my personal experience and that not everybody out there is like that.Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English – or even in broken Japanese.These are just a few theories by friends, co-workers and myself.
Of course, you get a lot of attention and there’s all this staring, but it’s not because anybody is flirting with you … It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.
At least getting one woman after another into your bed, is really easy, even if you’re quite ugly!
For some reason Japanese women seem to find even ugly foreign guys attractive …..
And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!
A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.